This article is not for dishonesty.
Well, it’s because lying is a bad thing (as you must already know). Honesty can lead to distrust and create pain. It can also destroy relationships, make you feel guilty, or cause havoc in your personal life. Only use lying as a survival strategy. Lying should be avoided if you are trying to steal or harm other people.
Honesty is my favorite policy.
Life has a way to put people in tough situations, where they might be more comfortable being a good liar. For example, when your boss asks you to go work on the day off. When a guy on Tinder invites you to go hiking as your first date. Or when that person who’s not really your friend asks you to be her bridesmaid.
When you find yourself in situations like this, it’s only a very believable lie that can get you out of the net. If you want to become a better liar, there are certain strategies you can use to easily convince people that you’re telling the truth.
Let’s dig in!
Losing your confidence is one of the surest ways to give away the fact that you’re not being truthful in the moment. The major cause of losing confidence while telling a lie is the thought that the person you’re lying to knows that you aren’t being honest.
The truth is, the person you’re lying to most likely has no idea that you’re lying. Studies have shown that humans only can tell 50 percent of when someone lies. This means that when someone is trying to assess whether you’re being truthful or not, there is always a ‘shadow of doubt’.
If you trust yourself, put on a brave face and become confident, there’s a good chance you’ll get away with the lie. You have the advantage because you’re the only one who knows for sure that you’re lying.
It is something that I can not stress enough. It is not enough to just memorize the details of your lie; your emotions also have to be completely on point when you’re telling a lie. It’s pretty obvious.
If you’re lying to someone that a distant relative of yours passed away earlier that week, it is important that your expression is a sad/somber one. It is not possible to tell a sad or false story. Smile and laugh. It would immediately take away the lie.
When lying, act like you’ve never acted before. Allow your actions, mannerisms and emotions to blend in with your lies. Don’t sound mechanical or robotic when lying. If you are able to smile and laugh at your lying, it will be more positive. Don’t keep a straight face while recounting the wonderful time you supposedly had on a vacation you never even went on.
Avoid bad body language
If you are looking to be a better liar, this is a crucial step. It is even more crucial if the person you’re lying to knows how to read body language. When telling lies, many people become anxious. When they are telling lies, many people tighten their jaws and slow down their breathing. They are able to relax and slow down their breathing, which is quite normal since lying can be dangerous. The problem is that the obvious tension displayed by the liar immediately reveals the lie, and this isn’t ideal.
These tips can help you to align your body language and your lie.
- Relax your lips. Inexperienced liars often suffer from stiffening the lips. This is what body language experts consider when evaluating the body language of an individual during questioning. It is a common trait of testifiers to compress their lips before uttering untrue statements. Relaxing your lips can help you convince people that you’re telling the truth.
- Take a deep breath and relax. Hyperventilation and increased breathing usually indicate nervousness or discomfort. It is crucial to be able to inhale normally and freely even if you are telling lies. Don’t even try to take a deep breath. If you do, it could be seen as a sign that you’re gearing up to tell a lie.
- Don’t touch your neck. Unconsciously, people reach for their necks’ dimples when anxious. They may even run their hands across their necks with their palms and fingers. This is a sign that body language professionals know and look for. If you tell a lie, keep your hands from your neck and your fingers away.
- Face the person who is lying. Many people don’t like to look squarely at the person they’re lying to. Sometimes, the conversation can become so difficult that you may slightly shift in your seat and turn your body away from the person you’re lying to. This is a clear sign that you’re lying and the other person might pick up on this. You must avoid the temptation to lie while pointing your nose or turning your body away.
- Don’t play around your eyes. While lying, it is important that you don’t reach for your glasses or rub at your eyes. Instead, keep your hands visible—especially your thumbs—and in a natural position to avoid suspicion.
Because of the discomfort and tension caused by lying, inexperienced liars will speak fast. Sometimes they stumble over the words. Listeners are alerted to these changes in the speaker’s speech by noticing that they may not be being direct with them.
To become a better liar, you have to convince your listener of a lie, but you shouldn’t repeat the information you’re to pass across too much. Use your normal speaking voice, soft and reckless. To lie, use the same inflections that you normally use in your speaking voice. It will be harder for listeners to discern that you are lying.
Use manipulative tactics
Each lie is built on manipulating others. Machiavellian is the best way to make a better lie. It means you need to be pragmatic and not anxious. You also need to be clever but not too dense. Do not dominate conversations but keep calm.
Machiavellians realize that to correctly manipulate another person with a lie there has to be good reasons. They don’t lie too often; they aren’t pathological liars. You shouldn’t be a pathological liar too. It’s incredibly difficult to keep track of too many lies, and, once you’re caught lying on several occasions, people will be reluctant t trust you. People who tell too many lies and cannot stop themselves from lying easily fall for this trap.
Learn to lie only when there is something you can gain. If you’re a truthful person most of the time, it is much easier to manipulate people because you’ve already gotten them to trust you through your usual honest disposition.
Be truthful about your lies
This is the golden rule for telling more lies. Tell as many truths as you can if it is necessary to lie.
It might sound strange, but this is a very sensible approach. The foundation of every lie should be something that is true, something you’re very familiar with. You shouldn’t fabricate lies from nowhere and tell them; it makes it easier for you to get caught.
Let me tell you what I am referring to. Imagine that you’re running late for a date because you spent more than you would like on shopping. If you must tell a lie, don’t say you were running late because you went to visit your sick aunt who lives miles away from your home. Tell them instead that you went to the shop and had to wait in the line to get there because it was so crowded. Tell them about everything except overspending.
It is enough to know everything about the shop. They know the products they sell and how efficient the clerks are. If you include these truths in your lie, it becomes easier for you to commit to the lie because the lie consists of things you’re familiar with.
The more honest you can be while lying (I know, it’s ironic but stay with me), the easier it will be to tell the lie, and convince someone else that you’re, in fact, saying the truth. It also helps you avoid follow-up questions which can prove very disconcerting, especially if you’re not a very experienced liar.
Don’t tell many lies
It is an extension to the first point, but it is still the most important.
Lies can lead to a lot of problems if you get used to them. You can manipulate others into believing lies by keeping your lies low-key. You can reduce the stress of managing lies by telling fewer.
Be careful with your lies. Think of your chances to be dishonest as ‘lives’ you have in the game of life. Keep them limited and try as hard as you possibly can to not get into a situation where you have to use a ‘life’ (lie) to survive. Your chances of being caught are greater if you keep lying.
All lies are brain-based and require brainpower. Add as much truth to your lie, just like we said above. It makes it more convincing and easier to recall.
You might break a vase when you throw a ball in your house with your cat. You get scared and decide to blame the cat if you’re asked about the broken vase.
When asked this question, you might say that the cat was playing at one time. You finished and placed the ball on the middle table. However, the cat was in play mode and tried to grab the ball. He knocked the vase over.
You told the lies, but the core truth was that the vase burst because of it. You can easily alter the important details as long as you are telling the truth.
You can become a more convincing liar if you are careful and attentive about your body language, and what details your story is. Follow these steps to make it easier.
- Feel confident
- Take action
- Avoid bad body language
- All things considered
- Use manipulative tactics
- Be truthful about your lies
- Don’t tell many lies